Daily Archives: October 16, 2013

Coaching

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A life coach can help you…

  • Sort through the maze of your life to find direction
  • Provide feedback to help you formulate your plans
  • Focus on the future
  • Realize your own potential
  • Believe in yourself and the power of your inner calling
  • Get organized
  • Begin a new course of action
  • Navigate a challenging season of life
  • Make the most of your opportunities

A life coach doesn’t…

  • Have their own agenda
  • Judge your actions by their own assumptions
  • Give you advice
  • Share your information with anyone else

A life coach…

  • Allows you to set the agenda
  • Focuses on you, listens to you and helps you explore you
  • Shares insight about you that is gained through the process
  • Prioritizes you during your coaching sessions
  • Respects your potential
  • Has a high regard for your creative ability to arrive at great solutions

That’s just a few of the benefits of a life coach. If you’d like to explore how a life coach could add value to your life, you are invited to experience a free 30 minute inquiry call.

The Value of Coaching – WOW!

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Light image croppedI sort of thought, “I don’t really need coaching.” Coaching is about change. I don’t have a burning area of my life where I feel the need of help to make some changes. My life has been about not accepting the status quo and pushing the boundaries in most areas. I had natural births and even progressed to home births. I breastfed my children and then added nutritious healthy foods and tried to teach my children over the years what health was all about. After starting the first three children in schools, we bucked the system and have home schooled five children, four down, one with only a little of high school left to go. I am always learning and seeking new information and applying it to my life. I coach myself through my stuff.  I interact with God through His word and the guidance and presence of the Holy Spirit. I don’t really need a coach to help me work through issues.

In a brief previous encounter with coaching, I was very worried about what to say, how I would come across and what the coach’s personal opinion of me was going to be. I was reluctant to be real, but I didn’t know who I should try to be!

Wow. I was wrong.  Coaching is a powerful vehicle for so many reasons.

Coaching forces you to think through in advance the topic for your coaching session. This is a valuable exercise in and of itself. It forced me to think through the different aspects of my life and come up with one specific thing to focus the coaching call on. Completing a Coaching Prep Form was hard to do and it is easy to want to put it off or avoid it completely, but the exercise and discipline of doing it was very helpful.

In anticipation of the coaching call I was a bit nervous.  There seemed to be a lot going on in my emotions and my soul and focusing on the one thing for the call was hard. I was afraid I wasn’t going to gain any value from the experience. I was thinking it was going to be a waste of time – mine and the coach’s. If I had been paying money for the experience (which I wasn’t because it was part of our class “coaching practical”) I would have been tense in advance thinking that it was also going to be a waste of money.

I couldn’t have been more wrong! My experience has again reinforced to me that coaching is extremely valuable. Even though I was vague and had a hard time trying to find the best topic to use this ‘valuable’ time for, the opportunity of spending 30+ minutes entirely focused on me and my current issues was powerful beyond my ability to express it in words.

In regular ordinary life there are rare opportunities when we are able to connect with another human being and share what is on our heart – or in the depths of our soul. Usually another person can only handle limited amounts and in conversation will quickly jump to a similar experience they have had, or the may express their opinion about what we could try or what we ‘absolutely MUST DO’ – advise that we may or may not appreciate! These interchanges are normal and we all experience them. It is part of the give and take of close relationships and friendships.

Coaching is so different. A coach is devoted to you, the client, for the entire conversation. They are focused on your world, taking notes of the things you say, reminding you of who you are and your previous statements about your own reality. They do not advise or instruct – that is the furthest thing from their agenda. They desire to help you see your situation more clearly, in light of your past, your present and your future. Their goal is not to build or deepen the relationship of mutual friendship, so they do not have a strong need to share their current situation. Their only goal is to be a facilitator of your exploration and progress in life.

The coaching call is also structured. It is not just a rambling counseling session. The agenda is clear and you, the client, end the call with ‘something’. But the coach doesn’t have their own agenda about what that something must be. They don’t have a preconceived plan of action for you. They want to be a facilitator to help you find your own agenda, your own action point for the end of the session.

Again, I cannot express adequately in words how valuable such an experience was for me. I am thoroughly and completely convinced that the experience of relating to a coach can bring enormous value to anyone. Witnessing ‘coaching in progress’ has opened my eyes to this forward focused approach of helping others and I am wildly enthusiastic to share this treasure that I have been given.

If you would like to explore life coaching more….

 

My Heart about Health

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Sand Heart smallI believe the #1 biggest problem with all people is self deception. This is compounded by the fact that as humans, our  primary motivator is sensual indulgence.  We want quick easy, painfree lives.

To illustrate the first point, every prisoner in jail is able to justify why they are not guilty. As an extreme example:

When Kermit Gosnell was convicted and sentenced to a long time in prison for the murder of babies and at least one mother through performing very late term abortions in appalling conditions (filthy) with untrained employees for nearly 20 years in Pennsylvania, USA, his understanding of himself and his situation was surprising.

He gave a private interview to one reporter and apparently views himself as a victim of the system:  the laws are wrong about abortion, he was only helping to alleviate and fight poverty, etc.  He was all about helping women.  He sees himself as a Christian man and there was nothing wrong with what he did.  He would slit the neck of any baby that managed to live through his abortion in order to severe the spinal cord “because they were dying already, and would die, to help them not experience pain.”

I obviously fall into the category “all people” and realize my own propensity for self-deception.  I am also aware that there are many deceptive forces in the world seeking to deceive people.  These forces prey on our desire for pain free, sensually full lives.  I am well aware of my imperfections and past heinous sins both due to deception and sensual indulgence and I thank God every day for the grace He has shown me in forgiving my sins and helping me to see them clearly in light of His perfection. I believe He has opened my eyes to understand many truths about a lot of things I haven’t always understood.

One area I have gained a new understanding of is the allopathic medical system, which might have started with good intentions, but has been hijacked on many fronts for gain.  Having grown greatly in my awareness of health and wellness – how to achieve it and maintain it – and being exposed to the false basis most people are putting their faith in – pharmaceutical fixes, medical experts, surgery, chemotherapy, vaccines, etc., I feel compelled to help people understand that just because information comes beautifully packaged, it is not always trustworthy.  Doctors have received most of their medical education with a strong pharmaceutical bias.  Drug manufacturers have become incredibly clever at marketing and dodge ball.  Get your drugs into the hands of people first, answer allegations, or withdraw your bad drug later.

So many government agencies and even ‘non profit’ fundraising groups have degenerated to become orientated around their own self-perpetuation and job security rather than the ‘good’ they are supposed to be doing. Most of their time, money and marketing is spent to justify their very existence rather than seeking truth and helping increase the health, safety or betterment of individuals or the country. The FDA, CDC and other federal agencies have unwittingly become industry captives and are not able to provide the protection they were originally designed to give. The public faith blindly given to so many aspects of our society, has unfortunately become very risky.

I admit that I have perhaps gone a bit too far in my cynicism and disbelief in the traditional “sickness oriented” medical system.  I think surgeons are fantastic when they have to put people back together after a severe accident.  Most doctors and others connected with the medical system are not evil people.  However, the deception is great and the reverence for pharmaceutical solutions is very powerful.  I want to warn the unsuspecting and figure out how to effectively help others grow in their understanding of how to further their own health.  I want to help people enjoy vibrant health and wholeness of soul. I appreciate many who have helped me along in my journey.

We are all on a journey of discovery.  What have you discovered about wellness and wholeness on your journey?